“M” has grown and changed a lot this spring. Her legs are longer. Her face is slimmer. She is speaking more clearly (and confidently). She can keep her panties dry all day. These days are passing so quickly!
Two years ago today, we finalized M’s adoption. We are thankful for her life and for the privilege to raise her. I am reminded that children are a responsibility, and parenting them for God’s glory matters most.
We do not celebrate “Gotcha Day” in our home. For some reason, though, I couldn’t get M’s adoption day off my mind today. It was a wonderfully ordinary day.
In the last few years, I have matured in my understanding of adoption-related issues and its complexity. It’s hard. It’s heartbreaking in ways. Yet, adoption is not about the parents. It’s a promise to a child to provide, to nurture, to train, and to sacrifice ourselves by bringing her up in ways that honor God. We also want to honor her birth family as much as we can.
We don’t know what the future holds for our family. Truthfully, we haven’t for a while. Maybe it’s because we regularly have new children in our home, but we feel “in transition” all.the.time. It’s okay. At least we don’t have a false sense that we are in control! That realization is a gift!
For now, Joey is planning to start grad school in January, and the online program takes two years. He will be a great Nurse Practitioner. From there, we’ll see where he gets a J-O-B. We love where we live now. Yet, we would like to be in an area with more racial diversity so our neighbors, church family, school peers, and friends look more like our home.
We trust the One who is orchestrating all the details. God has formed our family and we lean into His plan. We have hopes and desires that we believe line up with His, and we’re watching Him direct (and redirect) us inch by inch. Oh, I am so glad He is patient!
Just as the previous two years have FLOWN by, we know the next two will as well. Sure, day-to-day life will have ups and downs as we wade through it; but, we are firmly anchored to the Rock. He is unchanging. We have peace in transition.
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Elaine and her husband, Joey, are licensed as an adoptive family and foster home in Ohio.